Are You In Love or On the Rebound?
When a relationship ended your world seems to be crushing down and there is nothing like any other girl/guy who come along to start a new relationship with. But how can you tell that whether you are ready to start a new or just on the rebound? We have seen it all, the syndrome of rebound; the gents pump up with girls or O.C. (ouch!!) and beer while the ladies would go for a haircut, dyed it, hit the gym or getting a French manicure.
Girls on the lookout, guys on the hunting season trying to find someone who is nothing like their ex. And yet, how do you know that you are actually in love instead of being on the rebound? According to one of the articles that I’ve read, the writer said that, “A rebounder tends to compare his/her current GF/BF with their ex. So, if you are still comparing, this means that you are still in a recovery stage. Stay away from relationship until you have sorted out your feelings. Besides that, rebounders (and those being rebounded on) often refuse to admit it, despite the obvious signs: dreaming about their ex, starting every sentence with X and giving their mind, body and soul over to the very next suitor that gives them the eye”.
In fact the biggest problem of a rebound relationship is that actually only one person is ready for a start. In reality, no one in this world would like to get involved in a relationship that has excess baggage. But God knows how wrong am I to say that?
According to the statistic, more than 50% of men & women would start another relationship (normally in plural) as soon as it end. The rebounders might be in for very selfish reasons: to keep them from loneliness and to boost the broken down self esteem issues. All these are possible for men/women that have been wounded before.
But, is it still possible to have rebound syndrome if YOU are the one who ended the relationship?
Basically, in my opinion even though it’s you who made the decision to end a relationship, subconsciously you may be looking for another relationship to feel cared, loved, or even just to put some space between you and your ex. Thus, it’s possible that the person (who decided to end a relationship) tend to get together with someone else too quickly without having second thought. This might create a big trouble. Why is that so?
You will be too focus on your new partner’s good qualities that your ex don’t have, and tend to overlook your new beau’s flaws. By then, it would be too late to do anything besides to continue walking. Don't look back and move on. This is very dangerous for the rebounder because she/he might be injured again.
When a relationship ended your world seems to be crushing down and there is nothing like any other girl/guy who come along to start a new relationship with. But how can you tell that whether you are ready to start a new or just on the rebound? We have seen it all, the syndrome of rebound; the gents pump up with girls or O.C. (ouch!!) and beer while the ladies would go for a haircut, dyed it, hit the gym or getting a French manicure.Girls on the lookout, guys on the hunting season trying to find someone who is nothing like their ex. And yet, how do you know that you are actually in love instead of being on the rebound? According to one of the articles that I’ve read, the writer said that, “A rebounder tends to compare his/her current GF/BF with their ex. So, if you are still comparing, this means that you are still in a recovery stage. Stay away from relationship until you have sorted out your feelings. Besides that, rebounders (and those being rebounded on) often refuse to admit it, despite the obvious signs: dreaming about their ex, starting every sentence with X and giving their mind, body and soul over to the very next suitor that gives them the eye”.
In fact the biggest problem of a rebound relationship is that actually only one person is ready for a start. In reality, no one in this world would like to get involved in a relationship that has excess baggage. But God knows how wrong am I to say that?
According to the statistic, more than 50% of men & women would start another relationship (normally in plural) as soon as it end. The rebounders might be in for very selfish reasons: to keep them from loneliness and to boost the broken down self esteem issues. All these are possible for men/women that have been wounded before.
But, is it still possible to have rebound syndrome if YOU are the one who ended the relationship?
Basically, in my opinion even though it’s you who made the decision to end a relationship, subconsciously you may be looking for another relationship to feel cared, loved, or even just to put some space between you and your ex. Thus, it’s possible that the person (who decided to end a relationship) tend to get together with someone else too quickly without having second thought. This might create a big trouble. Why is that so?
You will be too focus on your new partner’s good qualities that your ex don’t have, and tend to overlook your new beau’s flaws. By then, it would be too late to do anything besides to continue walking. Don't look back and move on. This is very dangerous for the rebounder because she/he might be injured again.
Well, easier to say than done. Most of the time many tend to seek the easier option, that is to see how it goes or leave it to fate. Indeed this is a very wrong move. Destiny is in our own hands. If you don't make a choice on what to do, how can you have control on your life? But then again, how many can really just move forward and never look back?
So tell me now, would you start a new relationship with someone that still carries excess baggage?
So tell me now, would you start a new relationship with someone that still carries excess baggage?
posted by Jooey @ 7:49 pm
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