Successful Woman

According to Paris Hilton, a successful woman needs to have four types of animals. First, a mink in your closet, a jaguar in your garage, a tiger on the bed and a jackass who will buy or give you anything that you want.

However, one of my girlfriends has a very different view. She claimed that a successful woman just needs one animal. That is a jackass that will buy or give you anything that you want. He will buy you a mink for your closet as well as the jaguar in your garage.

Well, since the jackass will make you rich, you can have as many tigers as you want on your bed too. Ha ha ha…

True also! : p

Love Turn Sour?

There is a big news screaming headlines in most of the major newspaper recently here in Malaysia. The news claimed that a Mongolian model was brutally murdered in an executioner style and her body was blown to bits with explosives in Shah Alam. It was speculated that the motive of the murder was something to do with an affair turned sour, betrayal, blackmailing and apparently few people have been remanded to help out with the investigation.

Well, I am not supposed to comment much on this case because it’s likely to go to the court or else any further comment will be held as a contempt of court. Why am I bringing this case up anyway? Hello… I am not going to talk about the case.

But, I was just wondering, how can a person who used to love you so much and at the end of the day hated you like a sworn enemy to the extent of hurting you? Causing you agony, grieves, misery and pain. Countless are dying to find out.

“When you turn over a pig’s stomach, you will see lots of shits. That is the norm”, claimed one of my girlfriends over coffee this morning. I have to agree with her because this Chinese saying has been around for so many hundred years. Therefore, there must be some truth in it.

But then again, it is quite scary don’t you think so? A person who is supposed to protect you, to love you and the one that you can rely on suddenly turn out to be the person who is going to hurt you the most.

Does this imply that once a relationship breaks down; either party can do anything to harm each other? Is it really that love and hate stands in between of a fine line?

Then, is this love at all?

Love should be patience
Love should be kind
Love should be accepting
And love should not be blind

Try open up your eyes to see
To find out whether he is worthy
For all you know he might not be
Heart broken you will ended up to be

Love is all about sacrifices
But without losing your one self
Love may come and go without notices
Hope you will handle it well

Sigh… Maybe this is what they say “When love and hate collide”? Or perhaps it is something like when there is no more hate, there’s no more love.

He hates you = he still loves you???

Conflict of Interest

Does it ever work out?

I was chatting with one of my girlfriends over MSN the other day when she suddenly asked me a question, “Can a relationship work out if a couple does not have anything in common?” Apparently, due to this reason, things started to falls apart, conflicts arise, argument occur and they do not have much topics to talk about.

I guess these are all in a package of relationship. Conflict of interests is bound to happen whether you want it or not. Sometimes even when you least expected it. But the key point for a relationship to work out does not depend solely on whether both of you have common of interest at all. This always falls back on how both of you tries to work things out.

Fighting, arguments and conflicts are inevitable. It’s fine to fight once in a while as long as you know how to end the argument properly. In fact, these fighting does wonders in helping to grow the relationship by assisting in the process of understanding the other involved and improving your sex life.

Well, you must be asking, how the heck by fighting with your partner will improve your sex life?

According to Samantha Brett from Sam and the City, “Marrieds, long-termers, co-habitees and newlyweds all know the power of a little squabble. Frustrations are let out, passions rise, temperatures heat up and wham - before you know it, you're butt-naked on the floor having mad, passionate sex”. (wow)

Come to think of it, how can we expect men to have common interest with us when women are from Venus and men are from Mars? Maybe it’s even better that both do not have common of interest where both can start a topic and that’s how the communication comes in. You talk about it. I am not saying that you have to force yourself into your partner’s world. Perhaps you can try to get to know better about his/her interest or at least listen to them when they talk about it. Who knows things will work out perfectly.

Maybe this is what they call opposite attracts! What say you?

The Big Question: Why We All Want What We Can’t Have?

Can anyone explain as to why grass always looks greener on the other side? Perhaps is it your eyesight that plays trick on you literally? And why is it the things that you can’t have are always the best things in the world?

Why does our ex all of a sudden looked more tempting once they are with someone else? Why do women yearn after taken men? Why do men love girls who are attached or married or beyond their reach? Here comes the dinosaur age question that has continues to pester the singleton as well as the couple everywhere around the world: Why the heck do we lust after someone that we can’t have?

The fact is that when someone is unattainable, he/she definitely looked more appealing than someone who is within your reach. Why? Frankly, many people out there are dying to know. Many discussions have been made, comments exchanged and many rounds of coffee with my friends. And yet, nobody seems to agree on one reason.

After dipping my nose on some of the articles and blogs written by experts, I come to a conclusion that some people didn’t realize what they had until they have lost it and later on trying to salvage it. Deja vu? Yes, it had happened to many people before over and over again.

However, there is a scientific explanation to this. According to Ruthers anthropologist, this is a trait that is imprinted in our human body. Apparently, there is this chemical in our body called dopamine, also known as “pleasure” chemical in the brain which actually increases, the longer it takes for an enjoyment to be fulfilled.

Therefore, in another words, the longer you lust for someone you can’t have, the more pleasurable the whole experience becomes. Sigh...no wonder single women out there are so turned on by taken men.

I couldn’t agree with this statement though. This is because love should be mutual. We should long for someone who is good for us that will love us back and treat us with respect and care. Maybe after many disappointing dates, bad break ups and loveless sex, it’s about time to wake up from your dream instead of wasting your effort and energy going after someone you can’t have.

Or perhaps the reason is just as plain as to avoiding obligations and commitment. In yearning after the unfeasible or unreachable, aren’t we guaranteeing that we will be able to endlessly enjoying the ride, the thrill of the chase without having to make a promise of any kind?

Think about it!