Rumors and You
According to some experts, they say that the biggest mistake in life one can make is to constantly worrying that you will make one. Many people these days, especially women, still go around in their heels worrying about what other people think, see or say about them.
We always want them to see us as a perfect friend, good mother, and devoted partner, attractive & understanding girlfriend and of course the list goes on and differs but all this still boils down to one thing. We want to be liked by everyone. In order to achieve this, we tend to let other people tell us what to do, what to wear, what to say and how to behave in order to fit in the society. In the process of pleasing other people, we might make some good friends as well as some enemies but one thing for sure, we would have lost our accountability for our own decisions and fail to realise what we really want and need as an individual. In summary, we have lost ourselves!
“They said that I was flirting with him while I was just being a nice friend!! Can’t two people from the opposite sex be just good friend rather than having an affair? Enough is enough!!” protested one of my blogger friends. This is one of the many examples of what will happen if you are not careful when socializing with opposite sex in a small town. People tend to talk about you when you get too close with someone. Rumors go around from mouth to mouth. Seriously, what the heck is wrong with these people? Are they jealous of you? Or do they just talk for the sake of being in the centre of attention i.e.: Being the one with the juicy information and hot gossips.
Seriously, I don’t know how to comfort my friend at all. In fact, I was wondering why she takes it so hard when she knows that it is not true at all. Well, here comes the big bang answer, she has been taking the rumors too personally.
One way to overcome this kind of situation is to try not to take that criticism or rumors personally. Once you are immune to the actions or opinion of others, you won’t spend your day sitting down worrying what other people will think about you or whining why people talk about it. Of course it’s easier to say than done. But we have to learn not to rely on other opinions too much and take charge of the situation.
Lastly, it’s not about the rumors that you should be focusing on. It’s about how you decide to handle the situation. Ultimately, the idea is to not let these rumors or opinions “hurt” you because this might be the culprit’s intention after all. Buckle up, sisters!
According to some experts, they say that the biggest mistake in life one can make is to constantly worrying that you will make one. Many people these days, especially women, still go around in their heels worrying about what other people think, see or say about them.
We always want them to see us as a perfect friend, good mother, and devoted partner, attractive & understanding girlfriend and of course the list goes on and differs but all this still boils down to one thing. We want to be liked by everyone. In order to achieve this, we tend to let other people tell us what to do, what to wear, what to say and how to behave in order to fit in the society. In the process of pleasing other people, we might make some good friends as well as some enemies but one thing for sure, we would have lost our accountability for our own decisions and fail to realise what we really want and need as an individual. In summary, we have lost ourselves!
“They said that I was flirting with him while I was just being a nice friend!! Can’t two people from the opposite sex be just good friend rather than having an affair? Enough is enough!!” protested one of my blogger friends. This is one of the many examples of what will happen if you are not careful when socializing with opposite sex in a small town. People tend to talk about you when you get too close with someone. Rumors go around from mouth to mouth. Seriously, what the heck is wrong with these people? Are they jealous of you? Or do they just talk for the sake of being in the centre of attention i.e.: Being the one with the juicy information and hot gossips.
Seriously, I don’t know how to comfort my friend at all. In fact, I was wondering why she takes it so hard when she knows that it is not true at all. Well, here comes the big bang answer, she has been taking the rumors too personally.
One way to overcome this kind of situation is to try not to take that criticism or rumors personally. Once you are immune to the actions or opinion of others, you won’t spend your day sitting down worrying what other people will think about you or whining why people talk about it. Of course it’s easier to say than done. But we have to learn not to rely on other opinions too much and take charge of the situation.
Lastly, it’s not about the rumors that you should be focusing on. It’s about how you decide to handle the situation. Ultimately, the idea is to not let these rumors or opinions “hurt” you because this might be the culprit’s intention after all. Buckle up, sisters!
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