Can We Trust Them?
By definition, trust defined as a firm belief in the honesty, goodness of someone or something. So, back to our question above, can we trust them? Who are them? Well, you should know better who I am referring too. Our partner, of course! (Past or present, doesn’t matter).
Trust is a very important element in a relationship. If there is no trust in one relationship, this indirectly means that it was built on lies. Of course, relationship built on lies won’t last. All these are chain reactions from one thing to another.
So, what can we do to have trust in a relationship? Trust me, nothing! It’s all about how you feel. Let your instinct do the talking. I believe instinct is very important. Listen to that little voice inside you. It will tell you what you want. I am not saying that it will always be right and you can choose to ignore it but why not just use it as a guide. You can’t be that wrong, right?
I remember there was this saying; the only way to make a person trustworthy is to trust that person. I didn’t agree at first. But, after much consideration, well, it’s seems right in a way. If you don’t trust that person in the first place, no matter what he/she does, you still won’t believe him/her. Therefore, the first step to eliminate lack of trust is to first give them your trust.
If you trust them, they will be true to you and if you treat them greatly, they will show themselves great! Sometimes I have to agree that things can get quite frustrated when one doesn’t have trust in someone. But always remember this, “you may be deceived if you trust too much but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough”.
So, what do you say?
By definition, trust defined as a firm belief in the honesty, goodness of someone or something. So, back to our question above, can we trust them? Who are them? Well, you should know better who I am referring too. Our partner, of course! (Past or present, doesn’t matter).
Trust is a very important element in a relationship. If there is no trust in one relationship, this indirectly means that it was built on lies. Of course, relationship built on lies won’t last. All these are chain reactions from one thing to another.
So, what can we do to have trust in a relationship? Trust me, nothing! It’s all about how you feel. Let your instinct do the talking. I believe instinct is very important. Listen to that little voice inside you. It will tell you what you want. I am not saying that it will always be right and you can choose to ignore it but why not just use it as a guide. You can’t be that wrong, right?
I remember there was this saying; the only way to make a person trustworthy is to trust that person. I didn’t agree at first. But, after much consideration, well, it’s seems right in a way. If you don’t trust that person in the first place, no matter what he/she does, you still won’t believe him/her. Therefore, the first step to eliminate lack of trust is to first give them your trust.
If you trust them, they will be true to you and if you treat them greatly, they will show themselves great! Sometimes I have to agree that things can get quite frustrated when one doesn’t have trust in someone. But always remember this, “you may be deceived if you trust too much but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough”.
So, what do you say?
posted by Jooey @ 11:27 pm
4 Comments:
At 9:33 pm,
Jooey said…
Dear Jason,
I understand the meaning of once beaten twice shy. But then again, do not let one incident to make you lose trust in everyone. You need to let go and learn to trust again.
Good luck!
At 9:47 pm,
Jooey said…
Dear bb,
Yes, instinct is a very accurate detector. However, the down side is that instinct might not be 100% correct but, it's an indicator for you to find out more. It's really up to yourself how to judge.
The question of whether it is worth while is all depends on how much you wanted to make the relationship work out. Yes, i agreed with you that sometimes when someone took granted of the trust given, it's really hard to deal with. But, if you really think that you want the relationship to work, no harm giving it another try. This time round just hope for the best and prepare for the worse.
There isn't any guidelines on this. Listen to the little voice in your heart and analyse it.
Hope that my comment helps! Thanks!
At 7:04 am,
Ti-Lyn said…
All I have to say about the issue of trust, is that there is no relationship without trust. It's the foundation of any r/ship.. without it, you do not have a r/ship. If you find it difficult to trust, then chances are it is not just one-sided. The other person also has to earn trust.. it's not a right. It's a privilege..
There's my 2 cents worth!
x
At 7:20 pm,
Jooey said…
Well said, Lyn..
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